Text With Parents: Traveling (Part I)

Hey Hey now, it’s another edition of Texting With Parents! My mom and I talk about these little moments and laugh. Since I know she is reading this on my blog I will say “HEY MOM YOU’RE FAMOUS AGAIN!” I feel very blessed to have a good relationship with all of my parents. I really needed a laugh today, so reliving this moment during my trip to Florida a couple of weeks ago brought some much-needed endorphins. This is extra great because I found my sonic smash or whatever (ice cream and brownies) in the freezer… who wouldn’t want some ice cream right about now? I know I bought like a week and a half ago, but it’s still good…..

Set Up: Part I –  I was on my way to Florida. My mom dropped me off at the airport and thus comedy was born.

Mom (7:30pm): I’m home

Me (7:38pm): Cool just got to my seat; We are delayed again

Mom (7:39pm): WHAT HAPPENED

Me (7:41pm): Dunno. The flight going to fl before me was canceled b/c of weather. Guess they had to rebook everyone on this flight.

Mom ( 7:42pm): ok hang in there. is it full?

Me (7:43pm): kinda. eating some chicken wings trying not to look ghetto.

Mom (7:44pm): Good for u. don’t use napkins

Me (7:45pm): y not?

Mom (7:46pm)” that’s how people know it tastes soooo good when u lick your fingers

Me (7:46pm): I really want to tear these wings up, but I don’t want people looking at me. I already feel judged!

Mom (7:48pm): Then just enjoy. don’t look side to side, lick ur lips often and smile. I would be tearing those little tips up yum yum  (mom is referring to the wing tips… I hate those).

Me (10:04pm): Here! finally!

Mom (10:06pm): Thank God

Me (10:10pm): Momma it’s so humid I forgot!!!!!!!!!! Death

Mom (10:11pm): Mmmmmmmm sorry how do you feel?

Me (10:12pm):: Tired. full of sugar and grease. I ate gummy bears and fried chicken wings.

Mom (10:12pm): the chicken

Me (10:13pm): yaaaa

Mom (10:13pm): Did you get the gummy bears I bought for you?

Me (10:14pm): You bought me gummy bears? No I had these in my travel stash.

Mom (10:17pm): Ok don’t worry Ill take care of them

Me (10:17pm): MOMMAAAA YOU DIDN’T EVEN TELL ME! lol I think you planned for them to be conveniently left behind like they denied Jesus and it’s the rapture.

Mom (10:18pm): I was going to surprise u. whatcha doing?

Me (10:10pm): surprise I didn’t tell you I have you gummy bears and they are in my room lol

Mom (10:20pm): I don’t remember where I put them

——– wait for it….

The next day….

Mom (3:42pm): Gummies are soooooooo good


I don’t know about you, but this seems planned…mom has gotten me hooked on gummy bears though she will never admit to it because now she knows David loves them. and she believes he and I have been on that gummy bear crack for years now. The truth is, I never really ate them until I moved back home. David likes gummy bears, but is really great at his diet and abstains… he is so disciplined unlike me.

Much Needed Rest…

I got some rest today… Now, it’s time for bed again so that tomorrow will be the start of another great week. My prayer is that God really help me to utilize the wisdom he has already given me so that I am a good steward of my time. Time does not change or stop for anyone. If the order of your time is not right, then you are setting yourself up for much disappointment. The sermon below is something that I refer back to frequently. It was part of my church’s series called the “God First Life” done back in January.



I’m really tired. I’m up now amidst the chaos of the impending nuptials of my brother and future sister in law. I ate a whole bag of Haribo gummy colas as I frantically drove back to their place with a bag full of ribbon for the 300 programs. This wedding has been very DYI, which is completely fine, but now I understand why people pay a lot of money not to worry about any of it. This on the heels of another wedding celebration last week, which turned out to be a workation (work vacation).

I am exhausted. My body is running on fumes. I want off the ride, but I don’t know where to find the exit. I’m just tired…

For some reason since January, I have had this “if I can just make it to…” type of mentality. I have fooled myself into thinking that there is some kind of relief to this madness. There is no real relief. Time will continue to go on and more activities will be added; more responsibilities will be required.

So… please pray for me. I am in a good place, but I am overwhelmed with the goodness that is in front of me.

Praise and Worship…

I love Hillsong (pretty much all of their groups: Live, United, Y&F, etc). I have been listening to Hillsong United’s newest album Empires.

It receives a “thumbs up” from me. I would describe as if the Aftermath and Zion albums got married and had a baby that they named Empires. The two distinct sounds and tones of those albums seem to meet and come together quite nicely in this newest edition.

Well done :)

One year…

A year ago yesterday, I wrote this posts: https://soultivating.wordpress.com/2014/06/12/the-sum-total/.

At the time my heart was feeling very raw for various reasons. I was on the verge of leaving Florida and starting over back in Georgia, I was uncertain about my professional future, and I was feeling despondent and enumerating about my past romantic relationship with David (among others). I was in fact all over the place.

Interestingly enough I still feel scattered, but in different and same ways. There’s been immense progress;however, that progress has brought a whole new set of challenges and strains.

Right now, my meditation is in the fact that I know who I am. I know to whom I belong. I know my first love and I am confident he provides all that I need and more.

The previous post is still true. I acknowledge the need I have. At the same time, a lot has been put to rest and I am growing. I am not as angsty, but there are still questions, hopes, and desires. Mostly, I am wanting to improve at exhibiting the knowledge that I have about loving others without strings attached. I can do this pretty well until I am hurt. I can’t imagine how Jesus felt and continues to feel when we just ignore all that he is and what he stands for.

I know God is in control. He doesn’t miss a thing and he is faithful to perfect in my the work he began in me until he returns.

He Doesn’t Miss A Thing…

In the midst of uncertainty, anxiousness, and the fear of the unknown, God does come through. There are so many “what if” statements flowing through my head in this season, and the making of plans A,B,C, and E. There are moments when I want to just say forget it all, it’s too much! One fact I do know is no matter what is in front of me, what’s in my past or what may come later down the line, I know that God is right there with a solution and a plan that was decided long before I was even a thought in my parents’ minds.

I stand here today knowing that there is no detail left to chance in God’s economy. God does not miss a thing. He sees, he loves, he knows, he holds, he provides, he divides, he restores, he gives more…


My family of believers…those who say that Christ is our King…those who have accepted the challenge to be different and to live different from the rest of the world…those who have made the decision to be counter-cultural…..

I ask you, when?

When will we stand together and actually love others despite the faltering nature of their humanity? When will we actually speak truth to others in love. When will our actions mirror our speech? When will we realize that we are actually the minority; however, what we do and how we treat others can change the majority, but that won’t happen with crassness, force, anger, judgement or hell-casting? It also won’t happen with boycotts or rallying against everything that supports something that goes against God.

Creating an isolated world that only supports things that are Christian will only result in a vacuum, a new social class that is exclusive. I don’t believe that Jesus died for that. He didn’t die for us to create a clique of peers that live in an imaginary safe bubble. He died in the trenches and asked us to take up our cross and follow him.

I think many of us are quite comfortable living, breathing, socializing, and supporting those within out own buildings, denominations, communities, families…the harsh and sinful outside world is much too much and dark for us…. no go toward the light, right?

But what about what Jesus did and and what he said? What about what he taught his disciples that were with him during his ministry? What about the wisdom they passed on to us that was inspired by God?

Live wisely among those who are not believers, and make the most of every opportunity. Let your conversation be gracious and attractive so that you will have the right response for everyone.

– Colossians 4:4-6

Many of us are walking a slippery slope toward the life of a Pharisee. That’s exactly the type of mentality that Jesus came to abolish. Remember when he overturned the merchants in the temple? These were the priest and “godly” people who were supposed to be helping the people, not the people out worshiping baal and other idols. I also don’t remember Jesus calling everyone to boycott and abandon the systems created in society at the time (take taxes for instance) because the people running those institutions were non-believers and sinful. Nope, we are called to live in the world, but not be of the world. Which means, we are called to live in, participate in, and help others in this world but not allow what’s in the world to permeate how we act or speak.

Bank at Wells Fargo for goodness sake and be the best example of Christ to every employee and customer because it’s God who saves, not our own actions. If we decide not to do business with those who are sinful or promote ways of life that we do not believe honors God, then we are missing opportunities for ministry through our actions and how we treat others. Also if we are going to boycott one, then boycott all. We would have to be living in the woods totally off the grid in Alaska somewhere if our avoidance of sinful places is going to work so to speak.

So… when brothers and sisters are we actually going to love others like Jesus loved others? When are we going to change the game by doing something people totally don’t expect?

Love is not about ignoring or accepting wrong. It’s about correction with truth and compassion. Remember when Jesus said those who are without sin cast the first stone and everyone had to drop their stones and walk away… well, there you have it. We are sinful too. It may look different, but it’s still sin.

Simple Love…

My Love David,

In regards to your question about simplicity…I’m all in. What makes it all simple is this directive…the one we received on March 16, 2013:

Let the message of Christ dwell among you richly
as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom
through psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit, singing to
God with gratitude in your hearts.

– Colossians 3:16


There’s no place I’d rather be…

Hurry up and get yourself home! We can’t lie and forget the world while we are oceans apart.Simple things are not always easy things, but they are worth the struggle.

Where in the world is Danish Reindeer?!

So it’s been a little while since I have posted. I apologize for being absent! BUT, just know that I have been busy developing in some new areas.

One area is as a Realtor. My first closing happened at the end of last month. It was exciting and very tiring, but worth every moment. My client is happy and I am happy for her. She’s a first time home buyer and I am so glad that God allowed me to be part of her journey. The hardest part of this new entrepreneurial venture for me is that there are so many things, resources, and methods out there that I am having difficulty figuring out which way I want to go. There’s also mounting financial pressure – I want and need to make my way so that I can get settled and move on with the rest of my life. I want to make some big financial moves, but right now I am treading water a bit as I am learning my way. My prayer is that I can adjust, but be wise during this period so that I will be set up for success and not stress!

Another area is that of relationships. David and I decided to move forward with the making of “us.” While this is excited, it’s also a bit nerve-wracking. It’s great because I know that God is making the path that we are walking. It’s quite the challenge, however,  to be present daily and not run ahead. I want to dream big and talk about all the things that could be. Sometimes being able to share those things help to affirm the connect to what’s happening. As a woman, you think about when your turn will come for that very special man man who will love you as you are to find you and say “you’re the one!” It’s very hard to be patient and not try to rush the now to be tomorrow. But I do understand the danger in not staying alert in the moment. So much can be missed, and I don’t want to miss a thing when it comes to moving forward with our future. Just generally speaking, marriages are severely under attack right now. Most people couple and then uncouple. I’m not willing to be part of that statistic, so It’s important to do this according to God’s will and timing. With that said, the caution of it all sometimes does stifle the joy slightly.  The always being careful not to run ahead makes me want to just stop and lay down under a tree…so exhausting. With that said, this just means I need to change my perspective. It’s skewed right now and I need to have that rearranged. Lord please keep me intentionally occupied so that I can chill out!

Family – family is good. My brother is getting married later in June. I am happy for him and I am praying that this is his “happily ever after.” My nephew and niece are also doing well. I can’t believe school will be out in about two more weeks! We went to Six Flags Over Georgia recently. I can’t say that this is my favorite way to spend the day, but they enjoyed themselves. My dad is doing soooooooooooo well! He is doing his water aerobics and has a wonderful glow about him. The last time that I saw him, which was for his follow up appointment, he was glowing! I haven’t seen my dad this joyful in a long time. I am so thankful that God has given him this opportunity to live life to the fullest.

So… that’s what’s going on so far. God is good.